First Love: Essays on Friendship is a bracing, intimate essay collection that delves into the power and complexity of female friendship in the wake of violence. Authored by the critically acclaimed Lilly Dancyger, this book emerges from the tragic murder of her cousin Sabina, which profoundly altered her understanding of womanhood and rippled through her closest friendships.

The loss of Sabina, her first love, serves as a catalyst for a bold and refreshing exploration of the connections between women. Dancyger examines the intensity of adolescent best friendships, fluid sexuality, mothering, and chosen family. Each essay is deeply rooted in a significant female friendship from her life, reaching outwards to challenge cultural assumptions about feminine identity and desire, and the ways in which women support one another in a world that often seeks to diminish them.

With seamless integration of personal anecdotes, literature, and pop culture references—from fairytales and true crime to the works of Anaïs Nin and Sylvia Plath, and even the 'sad girls' of Tumblr—Dancyger's essays weave a multifaceted narrative of a life as told through the lens of friendships. This collection is a profound exploration of the essence of loving one another and elevates friendships to the status of love stories, offering them the deep consideration traditionally reserved for romantic relationships.

First Love argues that although friendship cannot shield us from the dangers of the world, the love found within it is always worth the risk. In times of tragedy, Dancyger reminds us, it is our friends who provide the support necessary for survival. Through First Love, the invaluable bonds of friendship are celebrated and given their rightful recognition.